How to Stop Shame Spirals :: Dr. Curt Thompson [Summer of Mentorship Wk 6]

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Heather McFadden reveals how shame immobilizes us and why we must have others come find us, starting a conversation with psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson.

Shame is not just a feeling. Dr. Thompson describes it as something that can split thinking, emotion, and the body from each other until even the next right move feels hard. That one may hit close to home. When shame takes over, a person may stop creating, cooperating, enjoying, or reaching toward God and other people. It pulls people away. The guest names isolation as one of shame's quiet habits, both inside the brain and between people who need each other. Parents will know the pattern. A child in shame may hide. Adults do it too. The conversation pushes back on the idea that moms should think their way out of shame or just power through alone. Shame condemns before it explains. It says worthless, insignificant, not enough, and bad until the body starts to believe staying still is safer. That stuck feeling matters in parenting. Dr. Thompson says an ashamed parent may want to run away after hurting a child, even when repair means moving toward them. So someone has to come find us. Heather keeps the help practical, because moms cannot keep finding their children if no one is finding them. The spiritual thread stays close. In this conversation, shame keeps people from moving toward God and from creating the beauty God prepared for them. Hope comes through connection. The episode is less about fixing yourself and more about being met, named, and drawn back into relationship.

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A faith-centered review of how shame can freeze family connection and send parents and children into hiding.

Shame comes through here as a force that can stall both parents and children, pushing them into hiding just when they need connection most. Dr. Kurt Thompson frames it as something that can separate thinking from feeling and the body, then turn a person away from others.

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