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How to Re-Parent the Inner Child with Amanda

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Christine says validation means responding to the feeling, not explaining it away.

1. Life Coaching with Christine Hassler episode 529 focuses on re-parenting the inner child with Amanda. 2. Christine Hassler is the host, a master coach, author, and spiritual psychologist, and Amanda is the guest who brings a recurring relationship pattern. 3. The episode asks how adult choices change when childhood needs, shame, and validation are addressed directly. 4. Christine says her coaching lens is reparenting, not rehashing memories or reliving trauma, and she ties it to the course Rewired. 5. Amanda describes choosing partners with narcissistic traits, avoidance, substance abuse issues, drama, or chaos, even when her gut says not to continue. 6. She says the pattern has shown up since she was 15 and that breakups often only happen after a "breaking point" or bottom. 7. Christine links Amanda's pattern to wanting to fix people and to hoping both parents would change. 8. Christine says that when love gets confused with fixing, the adult keeps seeking familiar situations to get the childhood they never had. 9. Amanda says she feels safer with someone if she feels needed, which she experiences as a kind of "insurance policy." 10. Christine ties that to insecure attachment and says being needed can be mistaken for worth in the relationship. 11. Amanda says she has done counseling, read books, listened to podcasts, and finished a counseling degree, but still feels the pattern when dating begins. 12. Christine distinguishes between understanding the pattern intellectually and changing it through somatic work and younger-parts work. 13. Christine says the shift requires learning to be for oneself what was not received growing up, and also learning to give oneself the good things parents did provide. 14. She says the process includes grieving "the death of who we always wanted them to be" and not pushing that grief onto partners. 15. Amanda says self-worth and self-esteem have always been difficult and that she tends to put other people on a pedestal. 16. Christine says pedestalizing other people can trigger unworthiness and a codependent hope that being chosen will determine personal value. 17. The strongest tool in the session is Christine's instruction to validate feelings in the moment instead of dismissing them or explaining them away. 18. Christine says saying "of course" to a younger part and putting a hand on the heart and belly creates grounding and calm. 19. The episode is conversational, coaching-heavy, and direct, with Christine using repeated examples and Amanda answering in real time. 20. Best for listeners who want practical inner-child and reparenting tools; skip if they want light chat or theory only.

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A steady coaching session on reparenting, self worth, and the cost of outsourcing care.

Christine and Amanda work through reparenting in a way that stays close to everyday behavior rather than drifting into theory. The conversation keeps circling the habits that make care hard to receive: putting other people on pedestals, expecting partners to fill old gaps, and…

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