Jess says momhood leaves brief quiet moments where loneliness hits and friendship feels hard to start.
1. We're Momming Today! w/Lauren Simonetti centers on how moms like Jess Johnston and Amy Weatherly make friends as adults.
2. Lauren Simonetti hosts Jess Johnston and Amy Weatherly, two authors and moms whose friendship led to a book called "I'll be there, but I'll be wearing sweatpants."
3. The episode asks how adult friendship works when motherhood, time, and rejection make connection feel awkward.
4. Jess says she met Amy in a writer's group, then Amy "slid into my DMs" with "hey, want to be friends?"
5. Amy says she first reached out to encourage Jess's writing and later saw that Jess put "the people in her life first."
6. The book title "I'll be there, but I'll be wearing sweatpants" comes up as a joke and as a marker of mom life.
7. Jess describes playground conversations where asking for a number feels "so weird" even after a good chat.
8. Jess says she once believed a friend would have to pursue her, until she realized she could "give friendship away."
9. Amy says fear of rejection keeps people from introducing themselves, making invitations, or starting conversations.
10. Amy tells listeners to "play like Ariel" and go "where the people are" instead of waiting for friendship to happen.
11. The hosts bring up a figure of about 200 hours to build a deep friendship, and Amy says the number comes from research.
12. Amy compares friendship to moving from "the shallow winds" into "the deep end," where trust takes time.
13. Jess and Amy say the first conversations are usually shallow because both people have their guards up.
14. The discussion turns to play dates, with Jess asking who should host the second one after one family has already hosted.
15. Jess says she prefers flexibility and back-and-forth, because one-sided giving is "something else" but not friendship.
16. Jess says she likes having kids over, keeps cubbies full of snacks, and can handle a house full of children.
17. Amy says she is an only child, so "a loud house full of kids and laughter" makes her happy.
18. The tone is conversational, practical, and lightly funny, with frequent back-and-forth between Lauren, Jess, and Amy.
19. Listeners who juggle kids, school pickups, and new-parent friendships will get the most from this.
20. People wanting a deep narrative arc or high drama may skip this one.
